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Comment on Soul mates or something by Ray

Ray — Sat, 10 Dec 2011 19:19:41 +0000

All apologies. I’ve posted a meaningless piece of tripe worthy of nothing but sound and fury. But let me make amends by clarifying some ideas on the subject…

Soul mates are possible where both persons (gender neutral) are physically attracted to each other, meld well emotionally/psychologically and their values (inclusive of lifestyle similarities) are highly compatible.

How should the soul mates meet is the romantic question in the essay. Serendipity, fortuitous events, alignment of the stars (syzygy), magic, make for a great romantic story. But meeting by serendipity implies predestination (exclusive of religious views). As Americans we don’t like to passively wait for things to come to us, we actively pursue them. Actively pursuing love…should this be a male dominated right? In this progressive society, it is refreshing for women to get their Sadie Hawkins on. They’ll flirt and directly ask a man out on a date, all the while defying social norms/conventions and the pejorative labels. Bring it! (Equal rights, equal access, equal opportunities.) Where’s my Nola Darling?

But what do we do when failure should greet us at the end of our pursuit? Like my story of surreal inspiration for love which ended in an absurd farce, I guess I go back again to believing in predestination, serendipity, fortuitous events, alignment of the stars (syzygy), magic, romance and hope. Hope in finding that soul mate (sic).

Comment on Soul mates or something by Ray

Ray — Mon, 31 Oct 2011 05:16:31 +0000

Too metaphysical for me I’ll opt for the “something”. My life experience with love can be “rationalized and explained” as surreal and absurd. How do I draw reasons and stories given these aspects? I can’t.

Anyway it’s too personal to share here.

No apologies for my anti-mythology.

Comment on Soul mates or something by Batsheva

Batsheva — Thu, 27 Oct 2011 14:36:02 +0000

love it :)
i always smile when i hear these stories, the love stories, the how we met stories, the ones where there is a happy ending.
(hellooooo – disney movies, anyone?!)
but ive always entertained the notion of, what if there are multiple soul mates out there for each person?
most people will choose only one life partner for themselves, but not all people remain satisfied with that.
i guess you could say, well, thats why people break up, or get divorced…when they are no longer satisfied by their current partner….but even that, sometimes, wouldnt be satisfying.
so i still wonder, what of the possibility that we are meant to be with more than one person at a time?
to ADD to the love, rather than eliminate and limit the amount of people you share yours with…

what would your grandma say to that? ;)

Comment on Soul mates or something by Wayne

Wayne — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 19:50:13 +0000

I think it depends upon the definition of “soulmate”. I think most of us could have a wonderful, fulfilling, lifelong relationships with lots of different people; the term “soulmate” often signifies to me that there is only one and I don’t see it that way.

The best reference I have found to the concept of a soulmate was in the book “Unhooked Generation” by Jillian Strauss. As part of her book research, she interviewed her parents who were still together and had an excellent relationship. She asked her mother what had made her marry her dad, and the conversation progressed as follows:

Mom: I really cared about him and we had a great time together.
Jillian: Didn’t you feel he was your soulmate when you got married?
Mom: No I didn’t, but he is now.

What I take from this (and what I truly believe) is that for me the idea of a “soulmate” is based upon experiences we have shared together (laughter, tears, dreams, fears, activities, friends, places, etc) and not just something that someone IS from the time you meet them.

I mean, how can one be your soulmate when they don’t yet know your soul, and vice versa?

Comment on Soul mates or something by Lxndr

Lxndr — Tue, 18 Oct 2011 14:51:23 +0000

I absolutely do not believe this.

There’s no guiding reason. We’re just programmed to find reasons and stories in anything. You can always play ‘what if’.

And that’s what makes things beautiful – there’s nothing out there except us, we’re the ones making our destinies and reasons.

Comment on Soul mates or something by SoSaysDave

SoSaysDave — Mon, 17 Oct 2011 07:51:42 +0000

I do believe. But it can be difficult with the way the world is these days. It just seems like everything is more complicated and we allow that to get in the/way sometimes.

Comment on The Emotional Sky Dive by Shauna

Shauna — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 15:00:02 +0000

Thanks for sharing! In my experience, that’s usually a red flag that says, “Deal with me! I’m important!!” :)

Comment on The Emotional Sky Dive by Mack Duncan

Mack Duncan — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 05:53:34 +0000

I’ve been feeling a wealth of confidence lately in everything except this.

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Comment on In which I hate on Bucket Lists by Shauna

Shauna — Tue, 23 Aug 2011 13:41:04 +0000

It seems that sometimes the boring things make the best moments. :) Thanks for reading!